From “Telling Stories in the Dark: Finding healing and hope in sharing our sadness, grief, trauma, and pain” by Jeffrey Munroe
Because he is a person of faith, people do occasionally ask Quentin why he thinks this happened to his daughter.
Quentin says he refuses to dwell on that question. “Look at me – I am a Black man trying to live an upright life, doing the Lord’s work, working with kids, working in the church. So, why should this happen to my family? It’s okay to question God, but I’m not going to lose my faith because tragedy comes. Tragedy hits everyone, no matter what. Why should my position or faith make me immune? I trust that God has things under control. I don’t have a crystal ball. I can’t see everything God can see. I cannot tell you why this happened, but I can tell you that it has grounded me. I would never choose this, never in a million years. I know some people experience loss and spiral into depression and anger and never recover. Instead, they share their pain with everyone. I want to still love people. I want to share my experience and help people see the importance of their loved ones and the importance of cherishing the time we have with them. We have to know how to love and forgive each other, how to be honest and transparent with each other. We need to be humble. We need to be able to say, ‘I’m sorry, I’m still learning, I’m still growing.’ The number one thing I have learned from this is to take time to slow down and love those in my circle. That’s Quiniece’s legacy.”